Finding Your Peace in Difficult Seasons

Can we have a heart-to-heart for a minute? Today, I want to talk about something that's been weighing heavy on many hearts in our community - those seasons when it feels like everything around you is in conflict. You know those times? When misunderstandings are popping up left and right, when old wounds from the past suddenly resurface, and when it seems like every conversation is one step away from becoming complicated?


Maybe you're in this season right now. Maybe you're looking at your relationships, your work environment, or even your family dynamics and wondering, "Why does everything feel so heavy?" First, I want you to take a deep breath. Because what I'm about to share might just change how you view this challenging time.


The truth is, these seasons of conflict, as uncomfortable as they are, often show up not because you're doing something wrong, but because you're doing something right. They appear when you're growing, when your standards are rising, and when you're finally seeing things with new, clearer eyes. Let's dive into why these seasons happen and, more importantly, how to navigate them with grace and wisdom.


First, Let's Shift Your Mindset


Here's what I want you to know right off the bat: If you're in this season, you're not doing anything wrong. In fact, sometimes these periods of conflict arise precisely because you're growing, your standards are rising, and you're seeing things with new eyes. Instead of viewing these challenges as problems to endure, what if we saw them as opportunities for growth?


The Truth About Everything Working for Your Good


One of my core beliefs that has transformed how I handle conflict is this: Everything works for my good. Yes, everything. Even when I'm crying, even when my heart is breaking, even when things don't go my way. And this isn't just true for me - it's true for you too.

When People Are Committed to Misunderstanding You


Sometimes, no matter how clearly you communicate, how many times you apologize, or how much you try to see things from their perspective, some people are just committed to misunderstanding you. This is especially challenging if you're a recovering people-pleaser who learned to stay safe by managing others' perceptions of you.


Here's the real tea: Their commitment to misunderstanding you has very little to do with you and everything to do with their own journey, their own wounds, their own perspective of the world.

Your Next Steps Forward


Remember these key points as you navigate your season of conflict:


  • You get to decide who you are, regardless of current circumstances

  • Your worth isn't determined by someone else's inability to see it

  • Growth often looks like chaos from the ground level

  • You can be both sad about a situation AND okay within yourself


Most importantly, know that this season, like all seasons, will pass. You're not just going to be okay - you ARE okay, right now, in this moment.


Whether you're in this season now or saving this wisdom for later, remember: Your story doesn't end here. You always have the power to turn the page and write a new chapter.

Shena Lashey