presented by
BLACK GIRLS HEAL
Nov. 12 - Nov. 16, 2025
Lagos, Portugal
A healing weekend intensive for women who want to build love availability, love balance, and their worthiness in the safety of sisterhood
Hear from our previous attendees:
The Healed and Loved Woman Retreat is for black and multiracial women of color who struggle with over-attaching or under-attaching to people they love (also sometimes called love addiction or love avoidance) who want to heal the trauma that leads to these connection issues to improve their lives, make way for the love that they want and increase their self-love.
Our retreats focus on helping women emerge with tools to feel Balanced, Available, and Worthy.
The event will take the supportive and uplifting feel that our sisterhood community offers while also giving access to private support and coaching.
Attendees will feel loved and supported for three glorious days of healing and sisterhood.
Our retreats are small weekends of intimate cohorts to ensure each women receives dedicated attention and that women have the opportunity to build relationships and connect to other attendees.
Amenities Included:
Housing
All meals except dinner on one evening
All attendee giftings and souvenirs
Attendee workbook and curriculum
Optional transportation to and from airport
Amenities Not Included:
Flights & Travel insurance
Calling all women ready to MOVE FORWARD in their healing process!
Retreat Venue & Housing Options:
Quinta Bonita, Lagos, Portugal
(Click here to visit the website)
private room
shared room
Attendees will have the option to stay in a private room or shared room. Spaces are limited.
retreat ITINERARY
Onboarding Pre-session
2 weeks before retreat
In the upcoming weeks before the retreat, attendees will be invited into an optional connection group to do pre-work and healing exercises to prepare for our retreat workshop.
Attendees will learn healing tools to allow them to stay regulated grounded and connected to themselves and others.
Workshop sessions
What to Expect
All workshop topics are are built around the needs of the attendees and sessions are created based on the themes shared at registration.
Attendees will have 3-4 sessions related to topics of love, trauma, relationships & connections, friendship, sisterhood, family, marriage, self trust, and more.
There will be multiple opportunities for Q&A and coaching related to students specific issues.
We will close with optional healing meditations for the day
Retreat excursions
In addition to our healing workshops, all attendees will have access to multiple excursions to explore and experience Portuguese life and culture.
wine tasting
Visit a local family owned, boutique vineyard in the Lagos area. We will sample white, red, and rose wine with light tapas.
food tour
Visit 4 different dinner restaurants tasting 10 of the most traditional Portuguese dishes while learning from a cultural and historical tour. Wine included
dolphin watching
A unique & Unforgettable experience leaving Lagos Marina
BBQ Cruise & Grotto Tour
Enjoy a traditional Portuguese sailing boat, take a swim, or have a snorkel while enjoying a Portuguese bbq lunch with wine.
Complimentary Beauty treatment
All attendees will have the option of booking their option of a complimentary massage, facial, or mani-pedi to use during the trip.
and many more surprises!
Attendee Testimonials & Stories
About Your Retreat Speaker
Shena Lashey
Shena Lashey is a Relational Trauma and Love Addiction Expert, Coach, and Licensed Professional Counselor based out of Houston, TX.
She is the founder of Black Girls Heal, and coaching and therapeutic education company dedicated to helping women of color break the cycles of unavailable relationships & love addiction, heal unresolved childhood trauma and improve their self love to make way for the love they want.
With these specializations, Shena hosts the Black Girls Heal podcast which talks about all things love addiction, intimacy, attachment and healing internal wounds.
She’s created the Healed and Loved Woman Framework™ to help women have a clear path to outline their healing process to become balanced and available to healthy love.
Private
Rooms:
One Payment
of $3850
or
5 Monthly Payments
of $770
Shared
Rooms:
One Payment
of $3500
or
5 Monthly Payments
of $700
Payment plans available on registration page
faqs
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Yes, there is a discount for former attendees and Recovery School students. Please either check the alumni options page or email us at support@blackgirlsheal.org for the discount code.
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Unfortunately, there are no virtual options at this time.
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Unfortunately, no. Due to the nature of this event, reservations and vendors retained, no refunds will be given for any reason.
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Love addiction and love avoidance are intimacy disorders.
Love addiction is the persistent obsession of a person, relationship, or fantasy and mistaking it for love, using it to self medication.
Love avoidance is the persistent creation of walls limiting others from seeing and connecting to the real you.
You can be more of one type or both.
Both are the result of unresolved trauma manifesting in our adult relationships.
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You do not need to align with these terms. However, all teaching will be taught through the lense of helping those who connect to these intimacy disorders and the trauma that causes it.
We encourage you, like with all teachings, to still come and take what you need and leave the rest.
