A 90-day framework for breaking unconscious patterns to stop ending up in situationships with unavailable people
A clear relationship framework to strengthen your self-trust so you can protect your peace and choose partners who are actually capable of healthy love.
WHO IS THIS FOR?
The BGH Method is perfect for you if you…
You’re a high-achieving, independent professional woman who keeps attracting emotionally unavailable men and can’t understand why the pattern won’t break despite all your personal growth.
You’re tired of obsessing over mixed signals and situationships, and you want to understand the deeper trauma and attachment dynamics driving your attraction patterns.
You’re self-aware and willing to do deep inner work, but you’d prefer a structured, exact formulas, and a step-by-step informed roadmap you can follow at your own pace.
You’ve done therapy, read the books, and listened to the podcasts, yet you still find yourself overriding red flags or self-abandoning in relationships.
You want clarity on why you feel strong and confident everywhere else in life — but anxious, hooked, or unsure in love — and you’re ready to address the root, not just the symptoms.
The BGH Method is not right for you if…
You’re looking for quick dating scripts or tactics to get a specific man to commit.
You’re not open to examining your own relational patterns and nervous system responses. You’re unwilling to examine your own patterns and prefer to focus only on how others need to change.
You prefer ongoing personalized coaching or live feedback, rather than a structured, self-guided framework designed for independent learners.
Hi! I’m Shena Lashey
licensed professional counselor /
love addiction & relational Trauma coach
After 17 years of experience, I’ve helped hundreds of professional women break cycles of unavailable and trauma-bonded relationships. As a formally trained licensed therapist and trauma focused love addiction coach, I’ve spent over a decade helping women heal their patterns and build healthy, secure relationships.
Using my BGH Method, I guide women to restore self-trust, break repeating patterns, and finally attract fulfilling love.
WHAT You will receive in the program…
A proven emotional regulation toolkit to calm anxiety, quiet obsessive thoughts, and stabilize the insecurity that gets activated in dating — so you’re no longer spiraling over texts, mixed signals, or distance.
A structured No Contact Exit Plan that shows you exactly how to detach from trauma-bonded or toxic relationships — mentally, emotionally, and practically — so you can leave for good instead of looping back.
A “What I Actually Want” Clarity Framework that helps you define your non-negotiables, standards, and relationship vision — so you stop settling for potential and start choosing alignment.
A 12-Part Pattern Breakdown System that walks you step-by-step through your relationship history, attachment style, and trauma dynamics — giving you a clear formula to understand why you’ve been attracted to unavailable partners and how to change it.
A Pleasure & Self-Priority Calendar that retrains you to put yourself first — rebuilding self-trust, reducing self-abandonment, and creating space for joy, fullness, and emotional stability outside of romantic validation.
What You’ll Learn in 12 Weeks
Freedom from trauma-bonded relationships — no more breaking no-contact, no more emotional relapses, no more secret hoping.
Complete clarity on what to look for in a partner — and the confidence to walk away quickly when it’s not aligned.
A deep sense of personal peace and emotional steadiness, instead of constant anxiety and overthinking.
The ability to spot emotionally unavailable partners early — and feel less attraction to them in the first place.
Freedom from situationships and ambiguous dynamics.
Healthier relationships across the board — with friends, family, and yourself.
INVESTMENT
most flexible:
2 monthly payments ofbest value:
One payment of
Pay in Full Bonus
Receive the 6 hour Mother Wound Bonus Workshop when you pay in full.
This bundle features two 3 hour workshops overviewing how to heal from a toxic relationship with your mother.
let’s break down
some COMMON QUESTIONS
women have had before
entering the program...
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I totally get it. Love addiction and love avoidance can provide a lot of complicated and nuanced problems.
However, as a formerly trained therapist and recovered love addict, I’ve seen how transformational it is to give women the right solutions to watch them change their lives.
This is why I transitioned to coaching because I’ve learned that if you give women the right tools and the blueprint, they will make it happen.
And I lay out my full method within the program that includes proactive support for the roadblocks most women encounter when resolving these issues.
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I hear that for sure, but here’s the thing… Most people think busyness is a state that will eventually resolve itself and they will have extra time.
But here’s the thing more time or the “right time” never comes because it’s not a time availability issue. It’s a self-prioritizing issue.
You will always have one more job responsibility, one more project, one more degree, one more child’s football game, one more baby shower, one more vacation on your calendar.
You have to start NOW learning how to prioritize yourself and your healing or it will never come.
Our program teaches you how to balance taking care of you so that you do not feel as if you are missing out on your other responsibilities as well.
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Fellow mom, here. I get it. Finding time to focus on you feels dang near impossible.
But here’s the thing - Prioritizing you IS actually love them as well.
Your kids are watching how you navigate your relationships (friendships and romantic). They are watching how, if, or when you prioritize and take care of yourself. From you, they are learning what is right and normal for them to repeat for themselves as growing adults.
And if you are feeling low and sad because you don’t take care of yourself, your kids know. No much how much you try to hide it. They are the most perceptive of us all.
Your kids not only WANT you to be happy, they NEED you to be happy.
Your best next step is to invest in something that will help you learn how to build a life based on boundaries, joy, and connection with not only yourself and your kids, but other outside relationships as well.
This program will help you transform so you can model healthy love for your kids so that they can create the same relationships as they grow older.
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I get it. You’ve been trying to esteem yourself for so long and hitting walls. It feels impossible that it could be any different – but that’s because you’ve been trapped within your own understanding and perspective.
Here’s the truth: you’re amazing. You’ve ALWAYS been amazing. But things aren’t working out because you don’t believe it yet. And trying to cram affirmations in doesn’t always work. We are going to uncover those root issues that have been getting in the way and CLEAR THEM OUT so that you can finally be free to move into that elevated, high vibe version of yourself.
OTHER COMMON Faqs...
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You will keep lifetime access to the curriculum and updates to revisit as needed as you grow with each of your relationships.
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Because of the nature of the program, no refunds will be processed at any time for any reason.
All payment plan options must be completed in full.
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As soon as your register, you will get access to the curriculum!
Lessons are dripped out weekly over 12 weeks for you to apply every month.
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See the current enrollment any payment plan options available above.
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No, coaching is a self help and educational service that is not reimbursable by insurance. Also, no coaches under this program operate or function as a therapist are not eligible for insurance reimbursement as well.
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Led by a formally trained therapist. this coaching program, though there is a heavy emphasis on dating, is focused on helping you heal from the impact of unresolved trauma in your relationships by learning and unlearning healthy relationship patterns.
You will learn how to balance and build boundaries not only in romantic partnerships, but also your friendships, family relationships, and drastically improve your self esteem. The BGH Method seeks to help you stay available in ALL aspects of your life, not just some as they are all interconnected.
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The BGH Method helps you build emotional strength, self-trust, and confidence through guided lessons and structured healing tools.
You’ll receive weekly emails when new lessons are released, and you’re welcome to reply to share your reflections or wins.
Though every message won’t get a personal response, I often weave the most common questions or themes into future bonus calls or additional resources for the group.
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No. Payment plans are due in full and cannot be canceled.
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No scholarships are available at this time.
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From the first week, the curriculum is designed for you to enact direct change into your relationships and life.
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Absolutely not! This program is built for all women who desire to break patterns in their relationships starting with themselves.
You will be able to apply this transformation in all of your personal relationships no matter the status.
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Absolutely! The relationship and healing strategies presented in this course are for everyone.
As much as I can, I use non-gendered language in my lessons. However, as many of the questions provided to me involve dynamics between male-female relationships, I do respond specifically to those when asked.
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This program, and all programs under BGH, center and speak to the experience of black women in relationships.
That said, we have found allies of all backgrounds have learned and transformed so much due to our curriculum.
Please feel free to enjoy as long as you are able to respect this sacred space.
YOUR SUCCESS DEPENDS ENTIRELY ON YOUR OWN EFFORT, MOTIVATION, COMMITMENT AND FOLLOW-THROUGH. WE CANNOT PREDICT AND WE DO NOT GUARANTEE THAT YOU WILL ATTAIN A PARTICULAR RESULT, AND YOU ACCEPT AND UNDERSTAND THAT RESULTS DIFFER FOR EACH INDIVIDUAL. EACH INDIVIDUAL’S RESULTS DEPEND ON HIS OR HER UNIQUE BACKGROUND, DEDICATION, DESIRE, MOTIVATION, ACTIONS, AND NUMEROUS OTHER FACTORS. YOU FULLY AGREE THAT THERE ARE NO GUARANTEES AS TO THE SPECIFIC OUTCOME OR RESULTS YOU CAN EXPECT FROM USING THE INFORMATION YOU RECEIVE ON OR THROUGH THIS WEBSITE OR PRODUCT. When you purchase our product, you understand that there is no guarantee that you will achieve any particular result or outcome using any of the ideas, tools, strategies or recommendations presented. We make no promises or warranties concerning your likelihood of success, performance, future earnings, business profits, marketing performance, customer growth or results of any kind. You understand that with any business endeavor there is an inherent risk, including a loss of capital and loss of customers and therefore you assume all responsibility for any such risk.
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